A
brave man is not always visible like the sun. If his wife keeps the
house clean and tidy and is hospitable to visitors while he is absent
because he is hunting or at war, she will undoubtedly enhance his
position in society. Her own fame will also spread like her husband’s.
A good man can be recognized by the actions of a good woman. If a woman
is not competent in her own home, this problem influences her husband.
(89)
A
man from Bozoks of the Oguz generation shall be the ruler. Two persons
shall never be your rulers at the same time. If there is one Han it
means order, but two Hans means disorder. Old, wise people said, “A
sheath cannot handle two swords”. “A woman cannot be engaged to two
men.” “Two customs cannot live in a land!”
(100)
Another
advice our forefather Oguz Han left for us was to assume a task
according to who you are! Big tasks for big people,
small tasks for small. If you are the husband of your household, your
duty is to protect your family; if you are the chief steward of your
tribe, your duty is to govern your tribe; if you are the ruler, your
duty is to govern your land; if you are the leader your duty is to
govern the whole homeland!
(100-101)
Oguz
Han said to the girl to whom he was engaged: “They have engaged you to
me now. I will accept you as my wife and love you wholeheartedly if you
accept that Allah is one.” The girl replied, “I do not know anything
about the real god, but I will carry out your orders and words.” Oguz
Han this time said, “My only desire is this. I mean I order you to
believe in Allah, the One and Only.” The girl replied, “I consent to
all your words and orders.” After this, the girl became a real
believer with a real faith, serving God carefully.
Oguz
Han then took the girl as his wife and loved her wholeheartedly and
forgot his former wives.
(108)
If
a family is unified, then peace prevails in that family.
(167)
Women
and men, upon attaining the age of marriage, have the right to marry and
to create a family by mutual consent. Spouses have equal rights in
family relations.
(260)
The
child is the product of the love, sincerity and will of the mother and
the father. For parents, even a single hair of their children is worth
the whole world. Because Türkmen people are hardworking and determined,
sons are given a special value. When a son is born, the parents say,
“We are wealthier, stately, now,” and his relatives say, “We have
become more fist (powerful) in the family now.” When one asks the
number of members in a family, they don’t tell you the number of
mouths in the family, but they tell you the number of heads. The Türkmen’s
love for his daughter requires special mentioning. That is because
daughters are more vulnerable and they will become parts of other
families in the future. A daughter should be very happy in her
parent’s home.
(327)
Türkmen
people have various sayings, principles and ethical rules regarding
children’s responsibilities to their parents. These are the
accumulation of thousands of years of experience. The Türkmen family
lies at the root of these. Society is in fact based on the family. So
the ultimate aim is the reinforcement and strengthening of society.
Therefore personal values, familial values and social values are not
separate entities in the Türkmens but they stand as inseparable parts
of a whole. It is this harmony that helped the Türkmen nation survive
as a nation for thousands of years. It was only under the
Soviet regime that the relations between mothers and daughters, fathers
and sons, and our national values were grievously harmed. The aim was to
destroy the Türkmen family. They understood that this was the most
appropriate method to decimate the Türkmen nation, and this policy was
implemented on purpose.
(328-329)
In
our contemporary age, the Golden Age of the Türkmen, our main objective
is the revival of familial relations and revitalization of family
values. In this framework, the responsibilities of the child to his
parents have a special role.
(329)
Proper
knowledge is a means to save oneself from the flood of life that would
otherwise have a devastating impact.
(345)
There
is a story full of examples that is about how the Türkmen values his
brother:
Once
a family had to escape from the enemy. But there was one horse to ride
in the attempt, it would be able to carry a limited number of people to
a limited distance.
Then
the young man thought and took his brother first to the horse, and
escaped the enemy, and saved all his family so, as the story goes.
(357)
Those
who love deeply and who marry their beloveds in sincerity and deep
affection are the fortunate ones whose ways are paved by life and Allah!
Men
who respect their wives and who can get on well with them without harsh
quarrels and without being attached to an excessive extent are those
lucky people who have a great fortune. It is unity and integrity,
fortune and mutual understanding that prevail in such a family. Such a
family is a very fortunate one.
(373)
The
husband and the wife constitute a new family, a new household and a new
core. No matter how many children you have, if the ground is torn up,
then the household becomes uncared for. When the woman is gone, then the
comfort of the household is gone, When the man is gone, a major
component of the household is gone. Allah created everything in pairs.
The sky and the earth, the Moon and the Sun and even the mountains and
the seas exist as counterparts of one another.
(377)
O
Youth! Each of you is a Sun. If you smile at your wives they will fill
the world with light just as the Moon does.
(378)
